We are talking about Designing Purpose for our lives and families. Why? Because Family’s Matter. We are in the midst of thinking through writing a Mission that fits your family or yourself. The first step is rallying the troops then truly nail down values. This post is simple and very applicable. It asks a ton of questions to help you refine and nail down values. The journey of 1,220 miles is accomplished one mile at a time. There are key steps to take along the way:
- Rally the Troops
- Nail down Values
- Explore Phrases
- The Place of Roles
- Sleep on it
- Make it Public
- Make it a Daily Reminder
- Make Adjustments
Nail Down Values–
I’m not sure enough can be said about determining values. If you and your kids designed your values, now is the time to discuss those values and why they are so important to you and your family. If you haven’t nailed down values quite yet, here are some questions that will assist you in having real and not just declared values:
Questions for Couples only:
- What kind of marriage partners do we want to be?
- What is the purpose of our marriage?
- How do we want to treat each other?
- How do we want to resolve our differences?
- How can we both support each other in our respective goals?
- How do we want to handle finances?
- What kind of parents do we want to be?
- What principles do we want to teach our children to help them prepare for adulthood and lead responsible, caring lives?
- What traditions do want to keep and create? What traditions are we bringing into the marriage?
- Are there things from our respective family histories that we’re happy or unhappy with? How can we change them if we’re unhappy?
Questions for Families of kids:
- What is the purpose of our family?
- What kind of family do we want to be?
- What kinds of things do we want to do?
- What kind of feeling do we want to have in our home?
- What kind of home would you like to invite your friends to?
- What embarrasses you about our family?
- What makes you want to come home?
- What do we want to be remembered by/for?
- What kind of relationships do we want to have with one another?
- How do we want to treat one another and speak to one another?
- What things are truly important to us as a family?
- What are the unique talents, gifts, and abilities of family members?
- What are our responsibilities as family members?
- What are the principles and guidelines we want our family to follow?
- Who are our heroes? What it is about them that we like and would like to emulate?
- How can we contribute to society as a family and become more service-oriented?
Question: Does your family have values? What are they? Are they real or declared (are they lived out or only talked about)?